As we previously discussed what low self-esteem feels like, today we are covering how to get over low self-esteem. Let me first remind you that you are enough, just as you are. You are the most integral, inescapable, and necessary part of yourself. Buried inside the depths of your heart are greatness and excellence.
You can’t get over low self-esteem without a little discomfort, but I want to assure you, you will be okay. The most important part of steering yourself out of this state of false and limiting beliefs is to imagine who you will become.
Imagine the person you will be when you start believing in yourself. Imagine the beautiful life that awaits you on the other side of doubting yourself. Imagine a life where you are in control of yourself, feeling as magnificent as possible.
Does that sound exciting? Now let’s get this started. The most promising position to begin is to discover practices to develop the “self “again, even with little effort. So here are the practices you can begin with to finally live out your most authentic, genuine, and higher self.
Practice Affirmations
Just the sound of it is all cheesy and stuff, but trust me this will definitely boost your confidence. One day of affirmations is not enough. Stay consistent with this one. You can choose to say it out loud in front of the mirror or better yet, write it in a Journal. Here are some affirmations you can start off with.
I am enough
I am worthy
I cherish and value myself
I am worthy and deserving of life’s pleasures and delights
I trust myself
I believe in myself
I am powerful and capable
Take yourself out on a solo date
This may sound a little terrifying, and might just send anxiety in a spiraling mode. And it’s okay to feel a little uneasy, stay in the discomfort it will suddenly disappear. Each time you feel anxious, keep chanting “I am safe and protected “. If that doesn’t work, do a breathing exercise, or better yet try this guided anxiety meditation by Brian Scott. You can start off by visiting hotel restaurants, they are usually less crowded. This helps to get over that little awkwardness of being alone. As you become more comfortable, you will find it easy to ask for a table for one anywhere.
Write yourself a love letter
Often, there are things we would like to hear about ourselves. When battling with low self-esteem, you are often at your lowest that you struggle to even utter anything kind about yourself. What are the words that you wish someone could say to you? Write it down, and keep that letter with you. Each time you feel like attempting to create doubts in your mind, read the letter again.
Avoid negative self-talk
You know those moments where you rip yourself to shreds with some “Oh, I’m so stupid, I’m so fat, I’m so ugly, I’m so so “, I need you to stop that nonsense right away. Each time you catch yourself speaking negatively about yourself, sit and start chanting those affirmations. We speak highly of ourselves, and it’s not arrogance. Say nice things about yourself, think highly of yourself. You’re gorgeous and the world is blessed to have someone of your caliber.
Start a workout routine
There are many options to explore when it comes to working out. You can practice Yoga, you can go for walks, you can join the gym if you fancy and you can also join a hiking group. While on this workout journey, you can add a little excitement by counting your steps and getting rewarded for it. Check out this app which rewards users for walking.
Buy yourself flowers
You don’t need to wait for the other gender to buy you flowers to validate your worth. Although the other gender is heavily invested in assuming women’s worth depends on the efforts they are prepared to convey, it’s all lies. I don’t know who they think they are. Walk into that supermarket and get yourself a bunch of red roses, add some chocolates while at it. It’s not madness, it’s called self-love.
Start Journaling Your Thoughts
This is to help you express your emotions and maybe find healing in the process. You can check out more about journaling here. It is your special space to vent, curse, swear and overall just express any hidden thoughts you are unable to express with others. After all, paper is more patient than people.
Part Ways With People-Pleasing
Ahh yes, start saying no to others. When they ask why tell them Secluded Spaces blog authorized it! You look better filling your plate with things that bring you absolute joy. Everyone is capable of doing things for themselves. You don’t need to overburden yourself just to acquire acceptance. If you are often at the center of connections that keep taking without offering anything return, find the door and exit. You deserve reciprocating connections. Read more about people-pleasing here.
The last one, start that project
Low self-esteem and procrastination are sometimes best friends. With all that self-criticism, I can’t imagine feeling good enough to start anything. So now that you’re serving the best version of yourself, start that project you have been postponing. It’s never too late, just begin. You are capable of achieving your dreams.
As you enjoy this uncomfortable yet sweet and rewarding journey, always bear in mind, that you have always been worthy and lovely. I look forward to hearing from you on the DMs, just how beautiful and wonderful you’re feeling. Sending love your way.
You can check out some books to overcome low self-esteem here.
